Love is large and incredibly patient. Love is gentle and consistently kind to all. It refuses to be jealous when blessing comes to someone else. Love does not brag about one’s achievements nor inflate its own importance. Love does not traffic in shame and disrespect, nor selfishly seek its own honour. Love is not easily irritated or quick to take offense. Love joyfully celebrates honesty and finds no delight in what is wrong. Love is a safe place of shelter, for it never stops believing the best for others. Love never takes failure as defeat, for it never gives up.1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (TPT)
According to Dictionary.com love is “a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.” The Bible’s expression of love is found in the personhood of God himself. HE IS LOVE!
In a society full of self-promotion and constant striving to “get ahead,” how do you outwork God’s definition of love giving preference and honour to others? How do you extend love to someone who wrongs you? And then keep no record of it?
Think about how easy it is to extend love to a small child. She needs your help and it’s difficult to deny a crying baby what she needs. So, you selflessly lose sleep, skip a meal, and work overtime to meet her needs without any thought to yourself. This is love.
Somewhere along the way, the grace begins to wane. You decide at a certain age, people “should” act a certain way or not require so much from you. Expectations aren’t wrong. However, if what you covet falls short of the mark, you become hurt and disappointed.
Love isn’t so easy anymore.
What if you took off all expectations today? Set aside what you want others to do for you and focus on doing for others instead?
Someone in your world needs your unconditional love today. There’s always be a reason to disqualify someone, to be angry, to be offended. If you are to live at peace, honouring God in your relationships, you must learn to love better.
Continue to dig deeper in your time of prayer and fasting, reflecting more of Christ in every way. Like water off a duck’s back, you have a heavenly perspective and what once seemed an important point to make is now moot. You’re bigger than all that pettiness. You desire peace above being “right.” You can serve the ones you love with no strings attached.
God has no expectations for you to perform. He loves you just as you are. Sins and scars and mistakes and all. Sometimes, you act like you have to put on a costume and dance around all day ticking boxes, hitting all the right notes in a perfect performance in order to receive God’s love. Strip off the garb of pressure. Put down the microphone. Turn the spotlight off and bask in the quiet place of rest in the presence of ‘Love Himself,’ almighty God.
*Think about your relationships today and what expectations you might need to give over to God in order to extend love. Ask God to show you how he sees the people in your life that are hard to love. Include yourself in this assessment and ask him to reveal his unending love to you.