family, Health, Prayer, Social problems, Uncategorized

Day 8: "Family Matters"

But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”

Joshua 24:15 (NIV)

Family Ties, The Cosby Show, Hey Hey It’s Saturday, Neighbours, Full House. Decades have passed with television mirroring family life. Do you have a favourite family sitcom or drama?

Watching other families struggle, laugh, fight, and love has always been a drawcard for audiences. Maybe it’s the reflection you see in your own life coming alive on the screen. Or, maybe you like the stability and perfection of TV show families (remember Leave it to Beaver?) as you daydream ideas for your own.

Every family is made up of unique individuals. Households look different depending on culture, work, living arrangements, urban vs country, and more. As you choose the path of putting God first in your life to start off your year, you are making a hearty declaration for your unique tribe. The foundation in your personal life spills over into your marriage. You build security for your children, your grandchildren, and extended family as you put God first.

As the health of the family goes, so goes the health of society. 

Imagine a healthy community of believers whose spiritual lives are stable and secure. You are a piece of a larger puzzle, fitting together God’s greater plan. Once your own four walls are stable, you begin to fortify those around you. Your family unit acts as a beautiful pillar in a long row of columns holding up all of society. This applies even if you’re not married with children!

Our community needs people like you. Strong and steady. Full of joy and peace. Your family, an example of unity and enthusiasm for life, bringing heavenly contributions wherever you go.

Today, pray intentionally for the Christian families you know. They face trials and have struggles; sometimes, afraid to reveal them for fear it might ruin their witness for Christ. As you are more capable in your own walk with God, begin to ask him who in your church or in your friendship circle might need specific prayer today.

Pray for protection over other families you know. Pray that marriages would stick out the hard times. Ask God to guard the mouths of those who might harm others with their words. Jesus, help those who resort to numbing their pain with pills or alcohol. Show them a glimpse of your love today.

Transparency and trust are at the centre of the family unit, so pray for families to fight for what is necessary to be honest and vulnerable with each other. Pray that dinners dinners and quality time together building bonds and memories will be a priority.

Domestic violence, divorce, and lack of financial security act as conduits for dysfunction within homes. Pray against these issues today. Winning the daily battles families face wages a war against brokenness across all of society.

*God loves you unconditionally no matter what your family situation is like today. No doubt, there are relationships that need work. Grief might be overriding your sense of peace and joy within your home. A loved one who has gone astray might consume you with fear and doubt. Lay these burdens at the foot of the cross today and expect God to intervene in a supernatural way that only he can.

Contentment, Courage, family, Finance, Inspiration, Leadership, Personal Growth, Uncategorized

Lady Wisdom

Happy New Year! 2020… a new decade! Time to pull out the diaries and start goal setting, resolution-ing, and asking good questions:

“Do I have time for this?”

“What should I say “yes” to?”

“What items in my cupboard need to go?”

“Can I afford this?”

These are questions I’ve heard my friends, my family, the teams I lead, all asking. I bet you are too. Andy Stanley wrote a great book many years ago called “The Best Question Ever” and it changed my thinking. Andy says, “In light of my past experiences, my current circumstances, and my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing for me to do?” (Emphasis mine.)

Before Greg and I ask if we can afford something, what we should cull from the calendar, we query, “What’s the wise choice?” When someone begs me to take on another volunteer role, it’s not “Do I have time?” Rather, “In light of my current and future priorities, dare I say ‘yes?’

Does this expenditure align with my value to put God first in my finances? To stay out of debt? To live minimally so I create margin to do the things I love like supporting my kids’ endeavours, traveling, etc?

If I take out the buzz of emotion that’s shouting in my ears, do I hear the whisper of prudence and sanity speaking to me?

This method takes off so much pressure and fuels my priorities! Wisdom tells me I need space in my days to feel alive, to hear the voice of God, to rest. Savvy says my budget is stretched and one more activity will only add to my stress. Wisdom reminds me that my kids are going to be just fine if they skip a year of XYZ sport or music or art. Chances are, they aren’t the next Beethoven or Steph Curry so giving them space to play outside, eat a proper dinner with the family most nights, and giving them my undivided attention as their mother (not just their Uber service), matter more. Good judgement calls out to me from the early mornings reminding me how much I need exercise for my sanity so my day must include TIME for that as a priority. Experience has taught me that I can make time for another activity but I won’t because these other priorities rank higher.”

In your gut, your heart of hearts, your intelligence and discernment, you hear Lady Wisdom speaking her truth to you too!

Listen to her!

She teaches you how to establish your values as a person and family. Then, you must find the courage to not let other people dictate how you outwork those values. What other families do or don’t do, how big their cars and houses are, how smart and amazing their kids might seem, what their social media account looks like with regards to their travel and experiences shouldn’t be factored into your goal setting or planning for the year ahead. This year, be brave and chart your own wise course.

Be assured that from the first day we heard of you, we haven’t stopped praying for you, asking God to give you wise minds and spirits attuned to his will, and so acquire a thorough understanding of the ways in which God works. We pray that you’ll live well for the Master, making him proud of you as you work hard in his orchard. As you learn more and more how God works, you will learn how to do your work. We pray that you’ll have the strength to stick it out over the long haul—not the grim strength of gritting your teeth but the glory-strength God gives. It is strength that endures the unendurable and spills over into joy, thanking the Father who makes us strong enough to take part in everything bright and beautiful that he has for us.

Colossians 1:9-12 (MSG)