family, Inspiration, Personal Growth, Uncategorized

November, Again.

Every November comes around with the velocity of a high speed train. Daylight savings, spring, open pools, sunshine.

And birthdays.

Three of them.

All in five days.

Sydney’s on the 5th, mine on the 8th and Sam’s on the 9th. No merging with traffic. November arrives – and, BOOM! So do all the birthdays.

I feel overwhelmed with another piece of childhood left behind; and, in the frenzy of planning parties, buying gifts, baking cakes for classmates, I forget about my own birthday. (It’s also very weird to celebrate in Spring when for 35 yrs mine fell in fall. Void of the changing leaves and leftover Halloween candy, there are no triggers telling me it’s my turn.)

So, this year, I decided to reflect a little more intentionally, to pick up blogging again, and hopefully inspire someone else who resents the audacity of the calendar with all its overreach and disregard for the pace I reckon we would all like to keep. The passing of time is a universal truth common to human experience. But we don’t have to like it!

I spend a lot of time prepping for the future: saving money, planning holidays, exercising and eating right. And, in the midst of all that habit-stacking and goal-setting, I often lament what was. Nostalgia rings a familiar bell with the sound of laughter and hope. I want to live in the present but I struggle to do so. I long to be content with what is but I have a hard time reconciling the vision I once held for what would one day be with the harsh reality of what actually is.

Disappointment has been an all-too-familiar friend over the last decade. Sure, Instagram shows the highlight reel of everything that’s been good. And, there’s been a lot of good. But, unmet expectations, betrayal, money stresses, mistakes, loss, (did I mention cellulite and wrinkles) have also taken up real estate in my life. No one ever puts those things on a vision board, do they?

The reality is, perfection is never a promise made by the One who gives us our breath. Easy isn’t extended to even the most lucky and blessed. Whatever our family, finances or faith, we aren’t immune to heartache and hurt.

So, this birthday week, as I reflect on my 43 yrs, I feel a little bit of ‘blah’ mixed with a little bit of ‘bliss.’ I feel free even though the heaviness of sadness threatens to invade. I can admit my faults and disappointments with unfettered honesty but when I do, vulnerability seeks to bring shame. I’m liberated when I can acknowledge I don’t have simplistic answers for complex problems but I would rather stick my head in the sand.

Embracing the monotony of putting one foot in front of the other is actually living footloose and fancy free. The fact that I woke up this morning means I’ve been given permission to use the gift of another plain old day to make a difference in someone’s life, to love the ones I hold dear and to give thanks.

Today, on this 43rd birthday of mine, I am more resilient, tested and true to myself… less insecure and more focussed on the things that matter most. I care about giving of myself more than of what I can gain. I feel grateful for every healthy breath and for a solid marriage. I’m pleased that my shoulders are a strong platform upon which my children can stand. I see my Heavenly Father through a sometimes beat up lens but what always comes into focus is his faithfulness and love for me (and YOU).

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
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Day 11: “Peace. In Family, pt 2.”

Healthy families are the fabric of a thriving society. Despite their imperfections, families provide stability and structure around the home life, our communities, and ultimately entire nations.

Broken families lead to poverty, lower academic achievements of children, and increased social problems. Although studies have been done the world over which draw these conclusions and validate God’s word in regards to his plan for marriage and family, you’re bombarded with the opposite messages.

The media tells you men can’t be trusted and that they are “toxic.” They are degraded and demoralised in our television shows. It’s a weakness for a woman to express her need and desire to have the leadership of a strong man in her life. The feminist movement has pushed a false agenda of “empowerment” onto women which says they don’t need fathers for their babies or two incomes to survive. All the evidence proves otherwise.

And, most importantly, God wants families in tact.

He longs for two parents to raise their children in loving, stable homes. God desires marriages to be strong and for your life and calling to intertwine and intermingle with your kids and their callings. You aren’t meant to live with a compartmentalised hierarchy of priorities. Allow God to flow through the mess of everyday life; and, by bringing unity in the home, let him weave his will into every situation. God first and everything else second. Moving in a rhythm of grace, pursuing God as individual family units creates momentum in our neighbourhoods and communities.

Your impact snowballs and takes ground everywhere it flows.

Today, let’s join in prayer for the family unit itself. If your family doesn’t look like you wish it did, it’s okay. God knows your desires and he has a plan for you. Spend time praying into your situation and asking the Lord to bring together strong families all across our nation. Pray for children who are being exposed to domestic violence and who are neglected emotionally. Ask God to mend broken hearts and give husbands and wives a fervour to fight for their marriages.

“To the fatherless he is a father.
    To the widow he is a champion friend.
    To the lonely he gives a family.
    To the prisoners he leads into prosperity until they sing for joy.
    This is our Holy God in his Holy Place!
    But for the rebels there is heartache and despair.”

Psalm 68:5-6 (TPT)
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Day 10: “Peace. In Family.”

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The good, the bad, the ugly. Your family has seen it all. They know your strengths, your weaknesses, your successes and your failures. Blood bonds since birth. Some families are tight tribes; others – broken bonds of separation and strain.

Divorce, abandonment, disunity, misunderstanding. Lack of forgiveness, ingratitude, abuse, neglect.

Safe, secure, aligned. Tradition, celebration, secrets. Laughter, travel, connectedness, prayer.

Whether the former or latter describes your clan, no doubt, you understand the importance of family. You may be praying for a wayward child to come home like the Prodigal Son. Your prayer and fasting could be for the salvation of a brother, auntie or parent. Maybe you’re struggling with a teenager or sibling rivalry and you desire peace to tamp down the fires of controversy.

God placed you in your family and he knows your heart’s desires. He loves each member and has a plan and a purpose for them all. You can impact your family dynamics through prayer as you lift up the needs and people in your life. God can do miracles in impossible situations and can bring healing and life to that which is dead.

You are a chosen daughter or son, belonging firstly to God’s forever family.

No matter your position or standing within your earthly family, God has crowned you as royalty within his. You have an eternal inheritance and all your concerns will be set right when you see Jesus face to face.

Spend time today thanking God for adopting you into his household. Give over any concerns you have about your earthly family to him who is more than able to bring healing, unity and hope to each and every situation.

The God of Glory ] “How blessed is God! And what a blessing he is! He’s the Father of our Master, Jesus Christ, and takes us to the high places of blessing in him. Long before he laid down earth’s foundations, he had us in mind, had settled on us as the focus of his love, to be made whole and holy by his love. Long, long ago he decided to adopt us into his family through Jesus Christ. (What pleasure he took in planning this!) He wanted us to enter into the celebration of his lavish gift-giving by the hand of his beloved Son.”

Ephesians 1:3-6 (MSG)